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16 Ways to be a Better Kisser

1. Good kissers keep it #treal.

The #1 must-have for even a semi-deec kiss: You actually want to. If you're kissing someone only because it feels like what you "should" be doing ~in the moment~ or because you feel weird pressure, then STEP AWAY FROM THE FACE.

2. Good kissers stay fresh.

Would you want to be thisclose to someone's face space only to find that their mouth smells like the dumpster behind Olive Garden? Kay. If you're anticipating a trip to MakeoutTown, avoid the stank-inducing foods like garlic, onions, processed Cheetos-like cheese, etc. It's basic manners.

3. Good kissers Keep Calm and Carry Balm. No one can hate when your gloss game is strong, but actually mashing that onto a human's face is gross and cruel and no. Bae is probs trying to kiss your actual lips, not your Melon Mango Primer, so stick to that good ol' neutral lip balm.

4. Good kissers talk it out.

Listen, #aintnobodygottime for bleh makeouts. Expert kissers skip to the good parts by taking control and mentioning the things you do like ("So, that tongue move you just did. Yasss."), and show them alternatives to the things you don't. ("Hey, instead of that ... toothy … situation you did with my lip, how about you just graze it gently, like this?")

5. Good kissers channel the right emojis.

Here's a list of emojis not to be when kissing:

🐟: Open-mouthed and gasping for dear life.

🐶: How did your tongue get in my nostril?

🐤: Stop pecking at my face ARE MY LIPS SEEDS.

If you're channeling ANY emoji, it should be Pink Shirt Massaging Her Head: Relax your lips. Relax your life. You're a hot, awesome human, and this person is lucky (and probably also just as nervous) to be kissing You. Collect your chills and relax. 💆

6. Good kissers move ~like you're my miiiirrror~

I'm not mad at envisioning J.Timbs when kissing anyone, and
Bomb-dot-com kisses are a mirror dance — meaning, mimic: Slow down, take note of the things bae does, and gently do it back. Bust out moves you'd want them to do to you. Remember that the show's not all about you: You're both in control of this dance.

7. Good kissers know: Less is EVERYTHING.

Thinking too hard about going for some ~sexy trick~ you learned is how makeout seshes end up feeling like dental cleaning. Pro kissers know to start off small and slow, and to only #turnup if you feel like it's right. Oh, you'll know.

8. Good kissers ARE ANTI-HICKEY.

Question: Who thought it'd be sexy to literally be a mouth vacuum? Oh, no one? GREAT — then we're officially retiring The Hickey. Be nice to Bae's neck: Small kisses down from the jaw or gentle lip-brushes FTW.

9. Good kissers know that lips-only are for basics.

💋Under the jawbone.

💋Soft spot behind the earlobe.

💋The UGH-so-cute little dip in the collarbone.

💋Tip of the nose.

💋Inside the wrist.

💋Forehead. 💋Shoulder. 💋CLOSED EYELID. #THEPOSSIBILITIES.

Give the both of you a second to mouth-breathe again and freakin' explore!

10. Good kissers take the long route.

Consider this a Google Maps for your meggouts:

Start at the lips, kissing (NO TONGUE) gently down towards the chin, then all along the jawbone, towards the ear. From here, give their earlobe a little nip, or whisper softly … "So when are we getting Chipotle?" (Optional.)
Sneak up on bae from behind and kiss from the top of their shoulder, along the curve towards their ear. (And again, The Optional Whisper: "I want to eat an entire pizza with you.")
Gently kiss down the forehead, starting at the hairline, along the slope of the nose, ending at the lips. Congrats: You're now so goddamn cute.

11. Good kissers can make PDA not-obnoxious.

Bae will def appreciate the sneak-attack smooch:

💥Facing each other on the bus? BOOM, tip-of-the-nose.

💥Approaching them while they're sitting? BOOM, forehead.

💥Strolling along, holding hands? BOOM, knuckle-peck.

💥Are you vertically challenged and only come up to their shoulder? BOOM, shoulder smooch.

💥Lounging con Netflix? BOOM, inside-of-the-wrist lip-graze. (Careful. Tickles.)

12. Good kisser can keep their tongue in check.

First Rule of Tongue: USE SPARINGLY. Start off by just finding their tongue with the tip of yours — almost like a gentle tongue fist-bump — then pull back. Try grazing past the tip of their tongue — then pull back. Circle the tip of their tongue — then pull back. (Drool and breath and blegh happens when you don't pull back.)

When you're feeling up for it, you can try running your tongue just along the inside of their upper lip, or pull a quick lick under their top lip in a sort of come-here/teeny-ice-cream-cone maneuver.

13. Good kissers don't nibble. Anything. EVER.

I'm sorry — the thought of someone "nibbling" on my lip the way I legitimately nibble on straws and pen caps and beef jerky GIVES ME THE ABSOLUTE FEAR. Why do we still tell each other to nibble?! Good teeth action starts with taking bae's bottom lip between your front teeth, giving a gentle tug, and letting go.

14. Good kissers play with the pre-game.

Before kissing, lean in and swipe your lips past theirs, slowly and lightly, then pull back. Take a one-two pause to bask in Bae's "OMG WTF I NEED YOUR FACE" reaction before going in for the kill. And for those feeling sass-tastic: If you've taken a break and are getting ready to lean back in, build up some anticipation by pulling back a half-inch and smiling, like "Not yet, sucker — Deal With It." Proceed with makeout as scheduled. #sorryneversorry

15. "But what do I do with my hands?!" you ask.

👋Both on either side of their head — with plans to slide back into their hair.

👋One on their lower back, and one behind the neck (can also venture into Hair Land).

👋Both hands lightly resting on their chest.

👋Both hands on hips, which can sneak around their lower back to squeeze.

👋One hand taking a selfie. (JK – just making sure you're still paying attention.) (But we'd be super impressed if you could pull it off, JS.)

👋One or both hands pulling on the neck of their shirt a little bit, towards you.

👋A few fingers up and down their spine, down the nape of their neck, or hovering around their cheeks and jaw.

16. Good kissers can manage bad kissers like a pro.

Pause an aggressive kisser by leaning back, putting a hand gently on their collarbone, and approaching v e r y s l o w l y — almost like saying, "Chill. Take it down 4 notches.Like this." Reroute an overly acrobatic kisser by pulling back, just enough so you can whisper, and say, "I like kissing you like this." Proceed with what you'd want done to you.

7 Ways to Stop Premature Ejaculation

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Premature ejaculation (PE), which I prefer to call early ejaculation, is the most common sexual problem facing men under 40. While it’s important to understand the physical and emotional causes of PE, it might appeal to the male “fix-it” nature instead to suggest certain techniques known to slow or stop PE.

I refer to these techniques, which you can teach him so that he can learn to delay his sexual response, as a woman’s special “tool box.” By dipping into the tool box, you can do more than just try to extend his erection — you can further build your relationship and deepen your intimate connection. You will both benefit from your role as Ms. Fix-It!

Here are seven of the most effective tools.

Deep Breathing
Deep breathing is a form of meditation that can sometimes help control the arousal and tension that lead to early ejaculation. Try to see if he can avoid shallow, short breathing, which speeds up his heartbeat and can trigger EE. Try to get him to spend five seconds breathing in one deep, full breath, hold it for about three seconds, and then exhale for five seconds. If he can do this for about five minutes without breaking the rhythm, he may be able to use it in the bedroom. Plus, focusing on each other’s breathing, and how it rises and falls, can build an intimate connection.

The Stop-and-Start Method
This begins as a solo exercise. Your partner should begin by masturbating alone, bringing himself close to orgasm and stopping. After relaxing, he should continue bringing himself closer and closer to orgasm until he can’t hold it any longer. (Doing this several times by himself without distraction will help him learn where his point of no return is.) When he feels that he has mastered the technique, the two of you should engage in sexual activity that stops short of intercourse.

The Squeeze Method
This method requires one of you to squeeze the base of the penis at the same point that the stop-and-start technique would be used, when he is at the brink of orgasm. The idea is to reduce your partner's erection through squeezing. Just as with the stop-and-start method, your partner should do it on his own first, master it, and then invite you to practice the technique with him.

Kegel Exercises
Kegels aren’t just for women. There’s no better method to strengthen the pelvic region than to create a strong pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle), which can help control ejaculation. The easiest way for him to find this muscle is to see if he can stop the flow of urine when he goes to the bathroom. It’s the PC muscle that he uses to do that. Once he finds it, he needs to practice feeling exactly where it is located and make sure he engages it, rather than using his abdominals, buttocks, or thighs. (These must all stay loose when doing Kegel exercises.) To do Kegels, he will quickly clench and release the PC muscle repeatedly for ten seconds. He should do three sets, with a ten-second break between sets. If he contracts his PC muscle when he’s close to orgasm, he should be able to slow things down.

Tantric Techniques
Sex that is truly explorative is more than just traditional physical pleasure. Try using the tantric techniques of establishing an intimate connection, including when he’s nearing the point of no return. When he approaches that point, he should cease stimulation (i.e., pull out), then contract the PC muscle and lower his chin to his chest (this is important, as it prevents energy from rising too high and making him feel ungrounded). He should then draw in a breath, feeling the warmth of sexual energy rise upwards in his body. Repeat this as needed, until the desire to release is no longer urgent.

Condoms With Benzocaine
The results vary, but climax-control condoms can extend sexual activity and delay a male’s climax as long as five minutes. These condoms have benzocaine in the tip; it’s a mild anesthetic with a slight numbing effect, so it can help to decrease his sexual sensation and bring his sexual response down to a more manageable level. Don’t worry, he can still enjoy sex! And while he doesn’t need the protective benefits of a condom duringmasturbation, he can try using the condoms in a solo session to see if they help to prolong and control his excitement.

Promescent
Just recently, a new medication for early ejaculation was approved by the FDA. Promescent is a topical medication that is applied to the penis ten minutes before sexual activity, and it helps a man to better manage the sensations of sex through desensitization. However, unlike other topical medications for early ejaculation, Promescent absorbs below the skin where the nerve endings that control ejaculation are located. A man receives only the dosage needed to control his ejaculation while still allowing him to enjoy the sensations of sex, and since it is absorbed into the skin, it will not negatively impact his partner’s sensations.

Medical Options
Even though your partner may not be depressed, the SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor) family of antidepressants, including drugs such as Prozac and Zoloft, may help his EE. The drugs can be taken several hours before sexual activity, and since they inhibit arousal, they can help make it easier for a man to control ejaculation. Before he makes a decision regarding these drugs, which require a prescription, he will need to see either his general practitioner or a urologist; he should also ask about and keep in mind

TEPCO: Fukushima meltdown announcement made months late

The reactor meltdown at the Fukushima Daiichi nuclear plant hit by a devastating tsunami in 2011 should have been announced much sooner, the operator admitted this week.

In a statement, the Tokyo Electric Power Company (TEPCO) said that a public declaration of the meltdown should have been done within days of the disaster.

It did not reveal that a meltdown was taking place for almost two months.

More than 160,000 people were evacuated from the area near the Fukushima meltdown, the worst nuclear accident since the 1986 Chernobyl disaster.

First case of cancer linked to Fukushima cleanup work diagnosed